North Texas
Lesbian Marriage Counseling
Repair, reconnect, and build a stronger relationship.
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PLANO & FRISCO TEXAS
Female (and AFAB) Relationship Therapy
We can help with a variety of challenges, including:
Internalized Homophobia & Shame
Internalized homophobia can impact how you view yourself or your partner. It may originate from religion, your family or origin, or society as a whole.
Desire Discrepancy
Desire descrepancy is a common issue in any relationship, but in female same-sex relationships, it can be compounded by myths and societal expectations of what sexual satisfaction should look like.
Role Expectations
Each relationship is like a living contract. You get to negotiate and determine how your relationship works. Part of this negotiation includes the division of labor, financial responsibility, decision-making, and more.
Gender Expression
Each of you has your own gender expression, which may or may not change over time. These differences can create friction around how each of you navigate the outside world and feels seen or validated within the relationship.
Decisions about Parenthood
Lesbian couples often face challenges around how to create a family, including decisions about adoption, fertility treatments, or co-parenting agreements.
Parental Roles
After having children, same-sex couples may face societal pressure to conform to heteronormative parenting roles, which can create stress around who takes on the ‘mother’ role, or if both partners are seen as equal parents.
Emotional Intensity
Lesbian couples often describe their relationships as emotionally intense. While this can create strong bonds, it can also lead to heightened jealousy or possessiveness, especially in long-term relationships.
Intersectionality
Lesbian couples often navigate multiple intersecting identities, such as race, religion, class and disability. These intersections can create additional layers of conflict or misunderstanding and shape each person’s outlook on the relationship.
Infidelity & Emotional Affairs
Like any couple, infidelity or the feeling of emotional betrayal can be an issue, particularly if one partner seeks emotional or sexual intimacy outside of the relationship.
Emotional Fusion
Because female couples may value emotional intimacy highly, they can sometimes struggle with enmeshment, where boundaries become blurred, and individual needs are sacrificed for the sake of the relationship. This can lead to a loss of personal identity or codependence, resulting in burnout, resentment, or feeling overwhelmed.
Conflict Avoidance
Some couples struggle with avoiding conflict or being overly accommodating to maintain harmony, which can prevent them from addressing underlying issues in the relationship.
CONTEMPLATING Marriage
Marriage is not for everyone. Before diving in, it is worth a thoughtful exploration of each of your expectations, external pressure, what marriage means, finances, having children, monogamy vs. ethical non-monogamy, and more.
Trauma from Past Relationships
Many lesbian women may come into relationships with past trauma, including previous experiences of violence, abuse, or unhealthy dynamics, either in same-sex or heteronormative relationships. These unresolved traumas can re-emerge in new partnerships and require attention.
Gridlocked Issues
Therapy can help gay male couples talk through gridlocked issues in a new way, so that you are not having the same conflicts over and over, which can damage your relationship.
Conflict Resolution
Every relationship requires communication and compromise. Conflicts will inevitably arise so it is very important to learn how to communicate and resolve conflicts in a way that does not harm your relationship.
We also help with anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, and other struggles that everyone deals with at some point (some more than others).
What to Expect
How Does Couple’s Therapy Work?
First Session
In our first session, we’ll go over the history of your relationship and what brings you to therapy.
Second Session
I’ll meet with each of you individually to get to know you better, learn more about your background, and better understand your perspective on your relationship.
Third Session & Beyond
After the individual sessions, we’ll all meet together to discuss therapy goals and begin working on the challenges that brought you in. This and future sessions will be with the three of us.
What to Expect
Plano Lesbian Couple’s Counseling FAQs
Do you also work with other genders and orientations?
Yes! This page is focused on lesbian (and AFAB) couples for search engine optimization, but we work with the entire LGBTQIA+ umbrella of identities. We work with all types of couples, troubles, and ethical non-monogamous partnerships.
What if we are not sure if we want to stay together?
That’s okay. We can help you explore:
- What is and isn’t working for each of you?
- Can your gridlocked issues be overcome?
- Can you establish new ways of interacting?
- Can you heal from the pain of past regrettable incidences?
- What do each of you want for yourselves and your futures?
- Are there alternatives to breaking up (such as opening the relationship)?
- What are your hopes and dreams?
- What might life look like apart?
If you do decide to break up, you may be able to do it in a way that brings closure and peace, so each of you can move forward to the next phase of your life.
Can you change my partner (after all, they are the real problem)?
The cycles of interaction in your relationship involve both of you. Let’s identify these cycles, see how each of you contributes to the negative interaction, and discuss what can be changed to alter this pattern.
COLLIN COUNTY TEXAS
Take the First Step
Frisco LGBTQ+ therapy: Your dedicated space for healing and growth in Plano, Texas (just south of Frisco).
Sage Finch Counseling
8105 Rasor Blvd, Suite 225
Plano, TX 75075
Most of our clients come from Collin County and surrounding areas:
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Request a Free 15-Minute Consultation
* By clicking Submit, you permit us to contact you by email, phone, or text. Don’t worry – we won’t send you junk. It’s just to schedule a consultation and see if we can help you!