Adjusting to Parenthood
Supportive therapy for worn-out parents in Collin County.
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Parenting is hard
It’s Okay to Feel this Way
“I love my kids, but…”
“This is not what I expected.”
“I miss my alone time and my life before kids.”
“I didn’t realize it was going to be like this.”
“I’ve been sold a lie.”
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Parenting Isn’t Just Hard
They say that parenting is hard, but hard doesn’t begin to describe it.
Sure, there are amazing and wonderful moments, but it’s often not what we thought we were signing up for. And if you are an LGBTQ+ parent, you have even more challenges.
So, now you’re somewhere along the journey, and maybe the finish line feels too far away. Or maybe it just feels so overwhelming that you can only get through today.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Maybe you just need to vent, express your feelings, and then creatively find ways to improve your life.
So come get the tools to make your life better.
Adjusting to the Loss of You
One of the biggest adjustments to becoming a parent is the loss of yourself, your alone time, and who you used to be.
It’s okay to grieve this loss and acknowledge your nuanced and varied feelings, both positive and negative.
This sense of loss doesn’t just happen during the baby phase – even parents of tweens and teens can feel this way. You can experience a different sense of loss through the various stages)
So, bring your grief and complicated feelings, and let’s talk it over in a non-judgemental and supportive environment.
Caring for a new baby is all-encompassing, both mentally and physically. Hormone changes, postpartum recovery (and sometimes depression), sleepless nights, and a changing work/home balance are all difficult and impact your well-being and relationships.
Lack of libido and low desire are common concerns among partners and lead to relational stress.
You can’t pour from an empty cup, and sometimes you just don’t have more to give.
Let’s figure out what’s going on and help you get to a better place!
Modern Parenthood Sets You Up for Failure
The cultural expectations of modern (American) parenthood sets you up for failure.
Most families need two incomes to make ends meet, but your job expects you to work like you don’t have kids and family obligations.
You’re kids need to take advantage of opportunities, right? So, so after work, you drive your kids to soccer, theatre, robotics club, and other activities. It’s exhausting and there aren’t enough hours in the day. Every night you drag your worn-out self to bed and then do it all again the next day.
Everyone in your family gets along, right? There’s no fighting, and everyone is well-adjusted – just like they appear on social media? Probably not. Maybe you look at everyone else’s seemingly happy family and wonder why yours feel like a dumpster fire (or maybe it’s not that bad, but it’s still hard).
Nevermind cooking, cleaning, laundry, home maintenance and other essential jobs and the impact of potentially unequal chore distribution.
Modern parenting expectations are over the top. You do not need to be a perfect parent and you do not need to sacrifice (or optimize) yourself for your kids. Lower the bar. It’s okay to be “good enough”.
Sometimes that’s easier said than done.
If you have a special needs kid, you’re playing life on extra hard.
Platitudes are not helpful – you didn’t ask to be anyone’s inspiration. You might also be dealing with cultural stigmas and ableism.
Maybe you feel stuck. Maybe you feel cheated – like you’ve been sold a lie. This is not what you signed up for. Yet, this is what you have, and you’re trying to make the best of it (and there are good parts too).
You can’t pour from an empty cup, so come get some emotional support and find ways to refill your cup.
COLLIN COUNTY TEXAS
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Frisco LGBTQ+ therapy: Your safe space for healing and growth in Frisco, Texas.
We see clients in-person and online from our Frisco, Texas office. Most of our clients come from Collin County and surrounding areas: